Parenting the Adolescents
The
various biological, physical, social, and psychological changes that the
adolescents experience also put a strain on their behavior. Due to the
behavioral change of adolescents, most parents do find it difficult to relate
properly with their adolescents.
Adolescence
is an extremely critical and vital phase of human life, it is a phase in which,
if the new psychological, physical and social capacities are properly channeled
and managed would result to the aversion of maladjustment issues in them and
urge them to immensely add to the mechanical, social, and human improvement of
their nation. In the words, self-awareness is integral to human advancement.
It
therefore, became apparent that the role of parents/guardians in helping
adolescents to achieve a normal and healthy development cannot be over
emphasized. Thusly, parents/guardians must be capable of being just about
everything to his/her kid including being an advocate, instructor, companion
and so forth. For parents/guardians to be everything to their kid, there must
be a decent relationship between the guardians and the adolescents. This is so
in light of the fact that the time of puberty likewise includes the move from
child parent/guardian relationship to youthful grown-up parent/guardian
relationship.
The
inability of adolescents to form out another solid association with the parents/guardians
or having parents/guardians that are profoundly critical and rejecting will probably
result to the adolescent embracing a negative identity. This is not only
affecting the adolescence alone, but it also affects the parent. The question
at this point is how is good parenting for adolescents possible?
Good
parenting for the adolescents is only possible when there is a good
relationship between the adolescents and the parents. In other to ensure a
proper and healthy relationship between parents and adolescents, parents should
endeavor to develop the following characteristics;
Listening
ability
Attentiveness
Empathy
Unconditional
positive regards
Listening ability:
Parents/guardians ought to attempt to effectively and mindfully listen to the
young people without intrusion and permit then to express their convictions and
encounters at whatever point they need to. Doing this, basically permits parents/guardians
to hear the emotions and read the significance behind the adolescents' words
and accordingly they will have the capacity to react to it. Likewise, guardians
ought to make inquiry to check their comprehension of what the adolescent is saying,
and to show that they have heard what the adolescent said.
Attentiveness:
parents/guardians ought to give the adolescent full attention by putting aside
their own worry and concentrating on that of the youthful. In doing this, parents/guardians
ought to be straightforward ("acting naturally") as young people can
without much of a stretch spot any individual who is faking it.
Empathy:
parents should be able to understand and enter into the feelings of the
adolescents; being in someone else’s shoe. Parents should try to understand and
appreciate the nature of adolescents. by doing so, they make themselves more
approachable because the adolescent only want to talk to someone who understand
them, who could help them get through their problem and not just somebody they
perceive is distant to them.
Unconditional positive regards:
parents should accept their adolescent for who they are and not base on some
set of conditions i.e, I will accept you “if” you.
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thechampatree.com
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Earlyadolescents.org
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